A. Daniel Bodine
Hee, hee! I knew science would someday vindicate me. Now apparently it has. That special moment (when I could mentally tell John, my old speech therapist back in Dallas that, yep, I was right) occurred last weekend. CNN moved the story “Stuttering linked to genetics, motor control.” Proof for me, it was, it wasn't “all in my head.” And that the complexities underlying stuttering can't all be lumped together in, say, a '56 Chevy Bel Air coupe; and then put on some interstate roadway and expected to perform like a wingnut '63 Ford Thunderbird. It's not going to happen. Or science is saying that partially now, it appears.And that's a big admission, folks. The trendy psychology of the 60's-80's was “passing the ancestral behavioral buck.” For every earlier traumatic action, there were these modern-day reactions. And the key to inner peace (turning negative into positive, say; frustrations and sadness into a successful life of wealth and happiness) lay in being able to go deep into one's self; to that point of Ground Zero, a convergence of where, when and how the Original Sin happened, and float it up out of your system on waves of deep emotions. Cry, Baby, Cry! Hurl Steinbeck's The Grapes of Wrath at it if needed! See what you did to me!? Cleanse yourself, Jethro! Don't be a pent-up hillbilly; cough the damn thing up!
My own crusade “up the mountain” began before I got out of the Navy in '71. If I was going back to Dallas and to my job at Texas Instruments (and not, indeed, to see all the naked women down at Rio de Janeiro), I'd decided, then I was going to look into what was causing me to stutter so much. I wadn't no freak, I'd found myself saying. By golly! So when I walked into a Dallas psychologist's office 7-8 months later, I was wired for a purpose: Get to the root of my bumbling talk!
John Gladfelter with his tall, towering presence and gray, waving hair was disarmingly friendly. He explained I could be best counseled in a “group” format; the system he used was transactional analysis, or TA; and he'd find a group for me and advise when to come. Seamlessly moving right on in this initial interview, he handed me a simple questionnaire to fill out. One of the questions was: What's the first thing you can remember? And just like that, a scene came up. My therapy had started.
Transactional analysis, it needs to be said, was considered the golden key to one's inner sanctum back in those Dallas days. Games People Play, I'm Ok--You're Ok, were all huge best-sellers. Just drift along with it long enough (don't fight it!), and “eventually you'll get back there where you can confront the damn thing”--wherever and whatever that inhibiting tape is, the argument went. If something's got you blocked, preventing you from being “an ordinary human being” and all...Well, just get it out! Get the damn thing out!
And TA worked fine for millions, it did. To a large extent, it worked well for me. You talk about loosening old bolts and nuts...NOTHING is more personal than speech! You could hang a year's worth of dirty skivvies on the line, and the frightening embarrassment would be piddly stacked up to when it comes time for a stutterer to open his/her mouth to speak. TA became to the mind what WD-40 has become to rusty, squeaky gates and hinges—a penetrating oil to loosen it up! And the emotional rewards one gets in its Freedom—the exhilaration—is indescribable. But it didn't improve my speech. Why?
There's a photo that was around in my family for years I was never too excited about. I was teased about it for one thing. I was less than two years old, standing with my sister, Claudia, two years older. One of my hands was stuck deep in a front pocket; the other hand, Claudia was holding. Mom sent the photo to dad overseas in the war with a message on back. Something like “Dad (my grandfather Carter, e.g.) wanted me to send this to you. It shows Danny playing 'pocket pool.' Hee, hee!”
Yeah, I was doing “it,” I guess. Feeling athletically skilled at an early age (aren't we all?), probably I was. Thinking about it now, I may have felt, indeed, I had a clean bank shot into the right pocket. But my parents, grandparents, etc., all being freshly removed “from the soil,” the farm, where things like this are more humorous, thought this little innocent habit was enormously funny. For a while. And then Mom drew the line. No more!
The scene that jumped in my mind in the Dallas office some 29 years later (is that even possible?), and that I described on the questionnaire, was our family all together in a car going somewhere down a highway. Dad is driving; Mom's in the passenger seat; I'm standing in the middle of the back seat (oh, if'n we'd only had child safety seats then!), shooting a little pool, I was; and Claudia is standing on the floor behind dad's seat. By this time she's noticed me doing that no-no; and lovable, older sisters being what they are, she just can't wait to tell everyone about it.
“Danny's playing with himself! Danny's playing with himself!” she shouts.
And in half an instant—half, mind you; yes, some mothers can be that fast when you get them angry—Mom had spun around on my face and “slapped fire out of me” for it. For playing my innocuous pocket-pool game. Didn't rearrange my face, mind you. But it definitely stung.
“I told you don't ever do that anymore, didn't I?” she said.
Thus, at age18-20 months or so (my memory probably wasn't a whole helluva lot better then than it is now, admittedly), to the best of my recollection, that was the last time I ever played pocket pool.
And that scene—real or imagined—niggled me for years. In some therapy sessions I'd get down to the very quick of this alleged assault (wanting to project my anger), but I never could go completely thru with it. And always I told myself, I'm uncomfortable because I think there's more to it. And, too, My Mama didn't cause me to stutter!
There were other problems, yes. Maybe some, I was too sensitive to how I was using other group members' time, and thus called off the dogs too early. In group therapies, in 1-hr. strictly limited sessions, you were obligated to walk the walk--e.g., you were expected to keep going deeper and deeper into your problem and not waste other members' time on peripheral wall décor--until, at last, you found and confronted that 3,000 lb. gorilla. And then tearfully gave it the boot.
This pressure to succeed in your self-discovery had an uncomfortable back-slice to it-- the need to produce, to Get On With It! Stop this dilly-dallying around and Free the Beast from the East! An introvert and naturally slow worker, too, that bothered me some—that need to rush it. The chicken-egg question. Which was it? So after two years, still stuttering, I left the group. I felt like I needed to move on to more pressing issues.
And, too, not all things could be unlocked by TA, I'd truly come to believe by then. Things like this didn't run in families? Dad? He didn't stutter, true, but didn't he have that same awkward manner of talking in short, simple and jerky sentences? Clearly a riddle, I was in; so I left it hanging. For all those years.
The CNN story last weekend, which reported on findings released at a recent American Association for the Advancement of Science meeting in Washington, D. C., comes at a time when the movie “The King's Speech” is almost certain to be a big winner in the upcoming Academy Awards show. It's based on England's reluctant, stuttering and stammering King George VI, who had to deliver an emboldened radio speech in 1939 to enlist his citizens into a war against Hitler's Germany. Based on some old documents recently discovered, the film has been nominated for 12 Oscars.
Indeed, it appears stars in the heavens are finally aligning themselves to spread more light on what many families once considered a taboo topic—the dumb one in the family who came up one brick short of a load in terms of verbal expression ability. There's so much being written now about just “functional magnetic resonance imaging” of the brain, for instance, to make one think truly we're on the doorstep to another of Huxley's “brave new world” discoveries; and that eventually this mystery, too, will be uncovered.
I'll certainly be saying my prayers for it. In today's political temper, especially, enlightenment needs all the help we can give it.
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